Do You Adjust To Poor Behavior?

Recently, I watched a neighbor drive her car to an empty parking lot in our condo complex. She parked, then proceeded to get her dog out of the passenger side and walk around the grassy area right next to the parking lot. She strolled with the dog for quite a while until the dog did its business, and they got back in the car and drove to her condo.

I thought this was very strange behavior. After all, the woman lives in this same complex. She has a grassy area right across the street from her home—and yet she drives the dog over to another area because, apparently, this is the only place the dog will go.

I looked at Louie and shook my head. “It’s a good thing you don’t do that . . . anymore, that is,” I said as we continued our walk. This strange behavior reminded me of our training sessions at the Queen City Dog Training Club.

Don’t Adjust to Your Dog

During one particular session, the instructor had us give several commands to our dogs while walking around the ring, and she observed how timely the dog responded. We walked quickly and then stopped; our dog stopped and sat next to us. Louie would stop and sit, but always at a 45-degree angle and looking up at me. He seemed to want to see my face. Because I knew he was supposed to be right at my side, I slowly stepped closer to him to achieve the goal.

“Don’t adjust to your dog,” came the command from our instructor; it was directed toward me. I looked at Louie and said, “Pay attention, Lou. You’re going to get us in trouble.”

Once again, we were told to walk around the ring and were given the command to stop and have our dogs sit next to us. Lou sat at an angle again, but this time I looked at him and then the instructor. She looked at me and said, “Don’t adjust to him. Scoot his bottom toward you.”

And so I did, muttering under my breath, “Why are you doing this?” He looked at me as though asking, “What did I do?”

After repeating this routine several times, I was ready to give up. Finally, Louie understood and sat perfectly still right next to me. Our training session was over—but the lesson was not. The words “don’t adjust to your dog” echoed in my mind for some time.

What was wrong with adjusting to my dog? After all, it was just one step toward him. It was hardly noticeable; and in the end, we achieved what we wanted to achieve—our dogs sitting right next to us. Then it dawned on me—when I moved toward him, I was adjusting to poor performance. And I let him know that the poor performance was okay, even celebrated, if I patted him on the head.

The Problem with Adjusting

Being flexible is very important as a leader, as is the importance of clarity in communicating our expectations. But adjusting to poor performance or behavior is a different matter. Sometimes we adjust because we are tired of keeping the standards at the level they need to be. Many times we simply give up and take whatever we can get.

Have you ever walked into your garage and immediately noticed the pungent smell of garbage? If you stayed in the garage long enough, you would adjust to the smell and eventually no longer notice it. That is until someone else walks in and points it out.

While not accommodating poor performance is very important for leaders, it is also true personally. So many times in society, we make adjustments to fit in or accept something that is wrong because we don’t want to appear politically incorrect.

The next time you have to make a tough choice, do the right thing. Truth and integrity are what counts, not the number of likes. It is not worth adjusting to your “dog”—even if that dog is one cute pup looking up at you with big brown eyes saying, “Did I do good, Mom? Huh? Did I? I know I did, right?”

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We are thankful for the many Louie Lovers who follow us and support our movement to be a more loving community. Thank You!
We hope you have a very blessed Thanksgiving!

 

 

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Time To Give Some Love Away!
Now is the perfect time to Unleash Love! Our book, Love Like Louie, will be on sale beginning Black Friday through Cyber Monday. We’re offering 25% off the book using the code LOVE25 at check out.
Purchase Love Like Louie, for your child or group of children, and help them start a book club. Adults and older children love the book as well, and there are discussion questions included to get the conversation started.
Louie and I would LOVE to speak to your book club about the story and the lessons learned 🐶
For more information on how to schedule a session with us, please email me at danise@di-advisors.com #lovelikelouie #kidsbookclub

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Louie is impersonating his hero, Mister Rogers!
One of Louie’s most significant role models and inspirations is Mister Rogers. His message of loving your neighbor, as well as anyone you meet, was groundbreaking for his time, and still rings true today.
The movie depicting Mister. Rogers’ life, “A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood,” premiered on November 22, 2019.
We’re working hard to continue Fred Rogers’ message of being kind to others and having empathy. We’ve started a nonprofit called Unleash Love, whose mission is to eradicate bullying and disrespect by helping children and adults know and share genuine love; to understand how to be loving people; and learn to treat others with patience, kindness, and not as objects to be ignored and disregarded.
Are you interested in joining the movement? Follow us on Facebook or Instagram or send us an email, info@louieloves.com.

Introducing Newbies Isn’t Always Easy


New blood in an organization is good, right? Louie has some thoughts about that.

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Did you know…Louie is available to visit your school or business? He’s a superstar and he actually allows me to tag along. During our talks, we share his story and how, through his journey, a leadership model has emerged as well as a tween book!

 

Contact us to schedule a visit (or just to say hello).

 

 

 

 

As always, Louie sends his pawsome love!

 

 

 

Look Beyond Failure and Rejection

 

Well, we certainly had an interesting adventure. Louie failed miserably during a hospital visitation assessment. As we drove home, I observed him in the back seat of the car. Looking at that little face, I had to ask myself…which one of us truly failed?

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Stop bullying 🚫 Start talking 🗣

Did you know the book, Love Like Louie, has a discussion guide to help middle-school children form book clubs and talk about how they’re being treated and how they treat others? The questions are easy to answer and allow children to not only share their feelings but the guide provides action steps to make a change in their behavior!

Love Like Louie is endorsed by Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The New One Minute Manager® and Servant Leadership in Action:  

“I love this book because it’s all about the power of love–the love between a little girl and a skinny stray dog named Louie. Love Like Louie is a wonderful book with lessons for kids, for adults, for everybody who believes that love really can conquer all.”                          

Click here to order a copy (or two) for your middle-grade child…they’ll love the story!

We’re Back With Something New!

New Year, New Lou!

We hope this year is off to a great start. We’re excited to share our 2019 news with you.

First, we’ve changed the name of our blog to Lead Like Louie, which coincides with our books, Love Like Louie and soon-to-be released, Lead Like Louie.

Also, we’re pleased to announce that Louie has gone big-time. Not to worry-he’s still the same lovable pup with lots of “character.” But we’ve joined forces with The LeadChange Group. Lead Change is a leadership media destination with a unique editorial focus on driving change within organizations, teams, and individuals.

This month, Lead Like Louie discusses how leaders send mixed signals (of course that never happens here). Click here to read our new blog.

Let us know what you think. And stay tuned for more exciting news about our new soon-to-be released book, Lead Like Louie!

As always, Louie sends his love!

 

 

COMING SOON…

Christmas Cheer From A Slightly Different Viewpoint

My assignment began as many others had in the past: make an announcement to the appropriate people at the appropriate time. While the recipients were simple, ordinary kinsman, this was no ordinary assignment, and this was no ordinary time. The enemy was near.

I never doubted the plan, but as I drew my sword and looked toward the Special One, I wondered, “Why him?”

I tenderly held him and nuzzled his nose. It was strange to see such form for the Creator of the Universe. How would the world understand this? Yet the plan was to go forth, and it was my responsibility to see that nothing stood in the way.

I enveloped my massive arms around the small baby and wielded my mighty sword.

“Not just yet,” were the words from the Father.

As I lowered my arm a bit, I watched the young couple slowly, cautiously travel across the miles. The emptiness of the journey seemed unfitting for my King. This young woman, to whom I appeared months earlier, carried a heaviness that echoed throughout the land. Oh, her need for release wailed as the couple settled into the dingy, smelly stable.

“Now!” commanded the Father.

I raised my fiery sword–for the battle would be intense as the enemy held nothing back in order to thwart the plan of God.

Through the intense pain of the final moments of our journey, we arrived. I knelt on one knee as I gently placed the Special One in the arms of young Joseph. When I released the small child, my heart cried out as I sensed what heaven would be like without his presence. As the stench of the surroundings filled the air, I remembered the stench of the world and its need for this Special One, this Savior.

I rose from my knee. In one swift movement, I towered over the quiet town of Bethlehem. With a thunderous clap, I summoned the heavenly host, and we swept through the town singing and shouting joyous praise.

“Hallelujah! The Savior is here!”

We reached across the sky, touching every star in the universe, haloing the brightest one of all. The display of lights danced in jubilant celebration for the world to see. Our voices carried throughout the tiny town of Bethlehem for all its residents to hear.

Then, my ear leaned toward the earth, waiting, and in a flash I shouted, “Halt!”

The length of my arms spread from one end of town to the other. Yet, the world was strangely silent, dark. No citizen stirred in Bethlehem. No one listened or heard. No one noticed the heavenly display.

I peered through the night. In the moonlit meadow and on the hillside I saw lowly shepherds still and on their knees. They looked up and questioned the wondrous sight they had just witnessed. I knew they had received the message. I moved closer as they cried out in fear and held their hands to their faces.

“Do not fear,” I proclaimed. “I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: you will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

Suddenly, the rest of the host became visible to the shepherds as we praised God and said, “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”

A streak of lightning flashed across the sky, and the angels departed. I stayed to watch from afar.

The shepherds turned to one another, “Let us go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”

Their faithful obedience gave me hope for this plan, which mysteriously unfolded in a dark, apathetic world—a world whose inhabitants waited for a King to ride in with pomp and circumstance.

But the shepherds looked for hope in God’s special baby. They stood at the edge of the stable, amazed that it was as we had declared it would be. They saw the baby wrapped in swaddling clothes, and they recognized him: My King, their King.

I nodded toward the Special One, a wee baby, and knew my assignment was complete. It was time for me to return to my post. For I am Gabriel who stands in the presence of God!

 

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We wish you a very merry and blessed Christmas!

Hit PAWS; Louie’s joy and gratitude

I wish I could capture the look on Louie’s face and his body language as we walk. I know I can snap a picture or even take a video, but neither would do his joy justice. You see, a picture, while it paints a thousand words, still does not truly capture the moment of pure bliss for my pup. He loves to walk and it is obvious. He loves to dig in the dirt, to greet people along the way, and breathe in new smells. I can tell it fills his heart with joy.

Other than a bit of time, it doesn’t cost me a cent to provide this joyful experience for Louie. I know he appreciates our walks just by his enthusiastic reaction to my picking up his leash.

Louie’s joy and gratitude cause me to hit the PAWS button and ask, how thankful am I for the simple pleasures in life? I am blessed with an awesome family that I love and who loves me. I live in a great country, and have wonderful friends, and can use the gifts God has given me. Rather than focusing on negative issues and problems, I choose to focus on joy! The first step in choosing happiness is to be thankful.

Studies have shown that people are happier and more joyful when they are grateful. The benefits of being grateful are nearly endless. People who regularly practice gratitude by taking time to notice and reflect upon the things they’re thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have stronger immune systems. This week, take time to PAWS and remember all there is to be thankful for, especially the relationships and the simple things.

I am thankful for you! Thank you for being a faithful follower of my pup, Louie. As we wind down the year, we are hitting the pause button as we rebrand Louie’s Leadership Lesson. There will be more information after the first of the year.

God bless you and your family as you celebrate Thanksgiving. 

Contact me: danise@di-advisors.com

 

Love Like Louie Arrives in Style

Louie made his TV debut sharing the essential message of love, which is foundational in leadership. The characteristics of love are important for 8-12-year-olds to learn early. If children (and adults) could learn how to be loving people and not see others as objects–how different our world would be today. We believe this message is very powerful and necessary, now more than ever.

Click HERE  to view the interview and HERE to purchase Love Like Louie.

Thank you to everyone who has been so incredibly supportive during this journey! We are blessed! Now, let’s go impact the world and spread the message of love!

Love,

Danise, Evi, and Louie

The Green Room.

Everyone Could Use a Little Love Right Now…

And we believe Louie has just the LOVE the world needs.
What are we excited about? Take a look:
  1. Tuesday, Oct. 23, Love Like Louie makes its official debut. To kick off this exciting news, we are scheduled that morning (10/23) for an interview with WXIX, Channel 19 at approximately 10:10 AM. And YES! Louie will be there with me.
  2. The Love Like Louie paperback and kindle version will be available on Amazon!
  3. A press release announcing the news of Love Like Louie went out Monday (10/15) of this week. Click here to read the press release.
  4. You’re invited to our first book signing (see details below). We hope you can attend and celebrate with us.

Thank you for your continued love and support. We are excited to share this journey with you.

Danise, Evi, and Louie!  

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BOOK SIGNING EVENT
Meet The Authors

 

Where: Wyoming Fine Arts Center
322 Wyoming Avenue, Wyoming, OH 45215
The Paul Bartel Ballroom

When: Tuesday, October 30 from 5:30 – 7:00 PM (Come and go as you please or stay a while).

Why: Because we love you!

Details: The grandmother and granddaughter duo, Danise DiStasi and Evi Sobb, will be sharing the story behind the book Love Like Louie. Middle-grade children will relate to Emi, the main character, as Danise and Evi unfold the heartwarming tale of a girl and a lost dog and the character-do-over they both experience thanks to the power of love.

Light hors d’oeuvres will be served and books will be available to purchase.

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In the midst of joy…there is grief!

I could not let this blog go out without a tribute to a dear friend. Louie’s best friend, Mick, passed this weekend due to complications with a heart condition. Our hearts are broken and his mom is still processing life without Mick.

We have many fond memories but one, in particular, stands out. Mick, who had enough of Louie nipping at his legs, gave Lou a quick roll over on his back. Louie promptly turned to stand upright on all four but was clearly miffed. He snarled and pranced off, putting an end to playtime. By the next time he saw Mick, all was forgiven and they were quickly buddies again. Oh, that we would be so quick to forgive.

I could always tell when Louie saw “Mickers” outside. Louie would give several short quick barks in a row, reserved only for his friend, Mick, and it was their own sort of communication. I’d looked out and sure enough, Mick was outside. Often Mick would stand in our front yard looking for his pal, Louie.

Mick will be missed in our neighborhood, more than words could ever depict, and I am glad we had the time we did with him.  One thing is sure, Louie will forever miss his pal as he stares out the window wishing for one last romp in the backyard, and saddened he didn’t have a chance to say goodbye.

 

 

Are You a Safe Leader? Or Person For That Matter?

Yesterday, September 15, marked the fifth anniversary of my adoption of Louie, my rescue pup. While it feels like just yesterday he pranced into my life, many times I feel as though he has been with me for a lifetime. We both have experienced many lessons along the way.

The most important lesson has been about love—about being a loving person, not seeing others as objects, and walking out the characteristics of love: patience, kindness, trustworthiness…

Hand in hand with love is the need for safety. Louie needed to believe I was safe. And very much like love, safety is tough to get your arms around. But I dare say everyone reading this and those in your circle of influence need to feel love and to feel safe.

Many times in the quietness of the night, I will hear Louie in his bed having some sort of dream. Not his usual running, playing and jumping dream. These are disturbing, as though he is scared and he is whining. I know he is still sleeping, but I will whisper, “Lou, it’s OK! Mama’s here!”

Now he may not know what I am saying but the very sound of my voice calms him, and he is able to relax and enjoy a good night’s sleep.

While taking a long stroll and Louie prances along, he will look up at me and touch his mouth to my hand. I don’t profess to know what he is thinking, but I imagine it is his way of “holding hands” as we walk, just to be near and to know he is safe.

My oldest granddaughter, Evi, would be playing just a few feet from where I might have been working and rather than look up, she would call, “Nonna.” I learned after a few times that she didn’t want to show me anything, she didn’t really want anything in particular. She just wanted to know I was near which guaranteed her safety.

Many times I’ve thought of a very early childhood memory. I remember quietly walking into my parents’ bedroom while everyone in the home was fast asleep. Next to my mom’s side of the bed on the wooden floor was a little throw rug. I would lie down on the rug just to be close to her. Often my mom would turn on her side and her hand would drop over the edge of the bed. I took that as a sign it was time for us to hold hands, so I would reach up and hold her hand. Never mind that my father was a police officer and knew how to keep a community safe. Holding my mom’s hand brought immediate comfort and satisfied my need to feel safe. I cherish the memories of holding her hand as she grew older and it was my turn to make her feel safe.

Thinking through the many times I’ve kept Louie safe from harm gave me PAWS. How safe am I as a person? A leader? A friend? A parent? How safe are you? Are you someone that, when trouble arises, others know they can approach you and share from their heart without judgment or criticism or lessons? Is love your first response? Is listening with a sincere heart to really hear the other person your natural inclination? Perhaps not, but we can be intentional about how we listen. Being a safe person and providing an environment where others are able to be vulnerable and share from their heart takes discipline and wisdom. But we can all strive to be that safe person others need in times of crises and when life feels stuck.

Louie’s life has been transformed because I am a safe leader. My life has been transformed because safe people surround me. Be intentional this week to be that safe leader, and you will see lives impacted for the greater good.

 

 

 

Stay tuned for a very important announcement about our latest book,  Love Like Louie


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